Because life
never stops teaching.

Journaling for awareness. Growing for life.

being yourself

Gumption. I taught my daughter this word in the car this morning. She is nearly thirteen and experiencing standard pangs of self-doubt, fatigue, and emotion that can take her down that resolute rollercoaster without much warning. Her posture and voice in the morning tell me that everything feels heavier than it once did. It’s unreasonable to expect her to get up each day with the joy and confidence I know lives inside of her, but it is difficult to see those beautiful attributes sitting out our morning routine.

As she was getting out of the car today before school, I went for a quick pep-talk and suggested she might dig into her gumption to get her through the day. I explained gumption …

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My friend Kim Gruenenfelder is a talented writer with a new book called “Love the Wine You’re With,” a story of friends who quit their jobs to sink their savings into a wine bar. In the book, Gruenenfelder writes about moments in people’s lives that have the power to change everything for the better. She calls this the Eciah moment, and she asked me to write about and share what this moment has been in my life. I’ve had a lot of life-changing moments—marriage, the birth of my children, exciting career experiences—but there was one simple moment that shifted my perception of it all. And it happened at home.

I once defined myself as a jack-of-all-trades and a master of …

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 I had my engagement ring cleaned recently. There seemed to be some residual play dough and lotion stuck in between the prongs. The jeweler was sweet, complimenting the setting and asking about how my husband had proposed sixteen years ago. She casually noticed a little flaw in the diamond and told me that if I ever intended to replace it, they could fit a new diamond into my existing setting. I smiled politely and bit back the urge to explain why that wouldn’t be necessary. My husband bought my ring at age twenty-three with his savings, and I couldn’t imagine ever replacing it. The moment felt similar to the time I had walked into the dermatologist for some hydrating cream and walked out …

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In honor of Women’s Equality Day and the efforts still being made to pass the Equal Rights Amendment (92 years after it was written) to ensure that “liberty and justice for all” includes women in the US constitution, I want to congratulate the courageous, creative, brilliant women around the world who are shining the way toward true equality. But I also want to raise a difficult question: Why are women so hard on each other? We have a better chance of rising up from limitations, labels, abuse and inopportunity as a group, if we stop limiting each other, labeling each other, and keeping each other down.

I hear about real world “mean girls” way too much these days. Female bosses who …

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There is some drama going on with the women at the barn. (There’s a sentence that I’m sure is as old as dirt.) Seriously, a couple ladies that ride where I used to take horseback riding lessons are dragging each other through the mud. (Figuratively speaking.) It’s a classic story of competition and differing opinions. I got an earful about it twice this week, and once from a woman I hardly even know in the general store just up the road from the stables. “It’s too tight of a community to go badmouthing someone,” she was saying, “but she’s bitter and jealous and… well, karma, ya know?” I just listened and nodded, as I handed her the money to buy …

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